I am notorious in manosphere / PUA circles for saying that, when you’re meeting new women and looking to have sex or build up a roster of nonmonogamous relationships, you shouldn’t “screen” women at all, for any reason. You should simply have sex with every woman you find attractive. I described why in both my book and this older article here. I’ve said many times that I only have two requirements for a woman to be in a relationship with me (FB or MLTR anyway): she has to be hot and low-drama. That’s it! Nothing else matters. There are literally no other requirements. I couldn’t care less about her intelligence, education, personality, age (obviously she has to be legal), race, background, religion, family status, single motherhood status, whether or not her parents are still together, or any of the other crap many right-wing Alpha 1.0’s screen their women on (usually in a vain effort to make long-term monogamy work, which of course it does not).

Nope! If she’s hot and low-drama, she’s in, at least as a FB, possibly as a MLTR as well. (OLTR is a different story, but through most of your dating lifespan you won’t have one of those, at least if you’re doing this correctly.)

This then begs the question of who I think you shouldn’t have sex with, even if she’s hot and low-drama. Despite the fact I have a very low bar to entry in terms of my relationship life, there have indeed been women I’ve said no to in the past, despite the fact they were quite attractive and reasonably chill, nice people (at least to me).

Here’s a list of the types of women I think you should avoid sexually, regardless of how little you screen. They are listed in no particular order.

Women you work with. I’ve discussed this already here. Having ongoing sexual relationships with women you work with is one of the dumbest things men do. Men think that it’s easier to just go after women at work, and often it is, but when you have drama with her (not if, but when) and when the relationship ends (not if, but when), you still have to work with her at the office every day. This is going to be hugely awkward at best, drama in the workplace at worst.

As a business consultant with 25 years of experience, working in literally hundreds of companies, I’ve seen this scenario play out over and over again. During the relationship everything is fine, but when the two idiots break up, it disrupts the entire office and creates a living hell for everyone. Moreover, as a man, you are much more liable for sexual harassment and other HR issues than a woman is. Not smart, dude.

I have always had a policy of never dating women I worked with, even back as a young beta male. I’m proud to say I’ve never broken that policy even when I was very temped (and I have indeed been very tempted on more than one occasion). If you really want to go there, get her personal contact info, keep your distance, and when you or her leave the job, then hit her up. This was the exact method I used to get laid in my pre-Blackdragon days as young guy, and it works just fine.

Russian women, at least those living in the West. I explained why here, so read that article. I don’t care how hot she is, she’s not worth it.

Married women, particularly when you know her husband or could “run into” her husband by accident. I think married women who have normal, traditional, monogamous marriages should be avoided altogether if you value your long-term happiness. Regardless, I have to admit that in my past, I’ve delved into this world a few times, so it would be hypocritical for me to advise always staying away from married women.

However! Even when I was playing around with women like this, my rules were very clear and I stuck with them. Namely, that I could not know the husband in any way whatsoever and there had to be no way that I could ever accidentally “run into” the husband. If a married woman didn’t match both of those criteria, I would say no (and I have).

Every time I’ve ever seen guys get in big trouble for playing around with a married woman, it’s always because the guys knew the husband or were in the same circles. Worst case, they did a “Gavin Newsom” and carried on affairs with the wife of one of their close friends. (STUPID!)

So avoid married women completely if you can (unless she has an open marriage; those women are great!), but if you must go there, make sure you don’t know the husband at all and you know for a fact you’ll never bump into him walking the dog in your neighborhood or meeting him at the office Christmas party.

Physically violent women. You should pass on any woman who clearly demonstrates that she’s had a violent past, particularly if the violence was A) recent and B) instigated by her.

Women in your family (in-laws, step-in-laws, etc) or who are close friends to your family. I’ve seen what happens when older guys have sex with their grown daughter’s friends or classmates, or sister’s best friends, when guys fuck their brother’s wives, or even when guys have sex with their own blood cousins (this happens much more often than you think). This kind of thing has even happened in my own extended family. It never ends well. Never. Don’t do it. It’s the same type of thing as having sex with women you work with, in that there’s literally no happy ending no matter how you play it. There are plenty more attractive women in your city than those already closely related to your family.

Underage women. I’ve talked about this in my younger woman ebook, but it should go without saying that you should clearly know what the age of consent is in your city, and then don’t ever go below that age, regardless of how tempted you are, how mature her body looks, or how much she wants you. That means you need to check ID and avoid her if she “can’t find it.”

This is more important than you think, since as you get good at dating younger women, the odds are near 100% that you’re going to eventually be sexually approached by other younger women in the same social circle, and some of these girls will be underage. In addition, sugar daddy dating sites have been absolutely invaded by underage women looking for cash for sex.

I semi-regularly get email from you guys saying that you’ve got your eye on a woman you know is legally underage, and that you want to “go for it anyway.” If you live in Asia or Suicidal Europe, the culture is such that you’ll probably get away with it, but if you live in Cuckoo Canada or the Collapsing USA, holy shit, don’t do it! These cultures seek the blood of men who sleep with women Societal Programming considers “too young.” Living the rest of your life as a registered sex offender isn’t going to make you very happy.

Baby-making monsters. These women are rare, but I’ve encountered them a few times. These are women who are dying to get pregnant right now, right this minute, with any man who isn’t too creepy, particularly if the guy looks like he has a good income. These are usually women in their late 30’s or early 40’s who’ve never had kids and are scrambling to beat their biological clocks, but I’ve run into women like this as young as 21. Stay far, far away.

Women who live too close to you. This is the same concept as women you work with or women closely associated with your family, though in some ways it’s even worse. Having a one night stand with a woman who lives across the street or in the same apartment complex as you is probably fine (though I don’t do one night stands at all because they’re a poor return on effort), but carrying on an actual FB or MLTR relationship with one is almost guaranteed to blow up in your face. How the hell are you going to enforce the once-a-week rule? What happens when she starts coming over to your place whenever the hell she wants? What happens when she sees you at your home with other women walking in? Or hears about it from the neighbors? I’ve coached with numerous guys who did this and it always ends up being a nightmare.

I realize that women who live really close to you may seem like easy, low-hanging fruit. Instead, they’re poison apples almost guaranteed to give you drama and screw up your nonmonogamous relationship life. The ideal distance for a woman in a FB or MLTR relationship with you is 10 minutes driving distance from your home. That way, she’s close and convenient, but not close enough where she feels the “right” to come over whenever she wants, see you more than once a week, or spy on you.

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Oh man. A lot of you emailed me this NY Times article written by a 30 year-old woman bitching about how men like to date younger women.

Instead of posting actual quotes from the article, I’m going to instead address the overall points it makes. If you feel I am not accurately representing the points it’s trying to make (and I will do my best to do so), then simply click the link above and read the article for yourself. It’s not very long.

Point #1 from the article. It’s not fair to women that the average man settles down 2.3 years (or more) after the average woman does. The average age of new mothers is 26, but the average age of new fathers is 31. Thus, it’s not fair that men get five more years of “play time” than women do.

My response. Please show me the person forcing these 26 year-old women at gunpoint to get pregnant and have babies. While you’re at it, please also show me the person forcing all these women to date, marry, and have kids with men who are older than them, rather than men their own age or men who are younger.

What is that, you say? No one is forcing them? Oh. Interesting. So what you’re saying is that women are choosing to have babies when they’re 26 and they’re choosing to date/marry/fuck/have kids with men who are older than them. Women are choosing these things… so why are you complaining? Via feminism, you wanted women to be able to choose their own life path. Great. You got it. Now they can. And now you’re complaining about what these women are doing? And worse, implying this is somehow not fair?

How can a thing be unfair if it’s something you are purposely choosing of your own free will? Any woman reading these words can wait until she’s 30 or 35 to have kids. Any woman can choose to have babies with a man her age instead of a man older than her. If women choose not to do this, that’s women’s fucking fault. There is nothing “unfair” about their personal choices.

Moreover, I have been screaming publicly for almost a decade that no one, man or woman, should even think about having kids in the modern era until he or she is at least 30 years old, preferably older. I think men should wait until at least 40. Not only will having children make you less happy, but having kids murders your big life goals for at least 15 years. Therefore, this is not something you want to do until most or all of your big life goals are already completed.

I realize most women are not going to take that advice (hell, most men don’t take that advice), but that doesn’t mean I’m wrong.

Point #2 from the article. It’s not fair for women when they settle down with an older man because then it’s more likely that she’ll have to take care of the man in old age.

My response. The real divorce rate in the Western world for people who get married now is around 70%, sweetheart, and the younger the person, the higher that number becomes. Younger women don’t stick around. That younger woman is going to be long gone from that guy before he even gets close to being old. Read this and this for more data on that.

Point #3 from the article. Women mature faster than men. This is possibly because men know they can settle down at a later age than women.

My response. Correct on both counts. Women do mature faster than men, and as Western men become more beta and child-like, this phenomenon has exacerbated in recent years, and will continue to get worse. I have written about this in great detail both here and here.

I don’t like this any more than you do (well, I do sort of like it because it creates less competition for me for younger, hotter women), but at least I’m not the cause of this problem like you are. The reasons for this childification of men are all due to left-wing social mores such as socialism, third wave feminism, man bashing, divorce rape, the welfare state, and increased size and role of government, all things that I have a very strong feeling you support, and that I have vehemently opposed my entire life.

Once again, like many women (and left-wingers) you’re bitching about a problem you, and people like you created. As I’ve been telling women for many years: you wanted this crap, now have fun dealing with the fallout.

Point #4 from the article. It upsets me that men I go on first dates with who are 30 years old like me have not given any thought to if or when they want kids, while this is a very important thing for me. It’s arrogant.

My response. Yeah. Read everything I just said above. It’s your fault.

Point #5 from the article. It’s arrogant because men think their sperm works just as well at age 30 as it does at age 40 or beyond, and science clearly shows this is not the case.

My response. Incorrect. Men are not thinking this. Men don’t even know about this or care. The few men who do know about this really stress about this a lot. Whenever I tell men to not have kids until you’re at least 40 and have accomplished your big goals, I always get irrational nitpickers who scream their heads off about “birth defects” and crap like that. I showed very clearly in my book that the odds of this actually occurring with older men fathering children is well below The 2% Rule.  

Yes, men’s fertility does decrease a little as men age, but men don’t know, don’t care, and with today’s science, it doesn’t matter anyway. A 55 year-old man shooting blanks who really wants to impregnate his young girlfriend or wife can very easily do so with procedures such as in vitro.

Point #6 from the article. Data from OKCupid shows that men prefer women age 20-22 no matter how old the men get, even all the way into their 50’s. By contrast, women of all ages tend to like men closer to their age. Men are arrogant because they think they could actually get a woman this young, and they can’t!

My response. That data shows what men are biologically attracted to, not what they think they can get. The vast majority of men in their 50’s who are slobbering over 22 year-old girls on dating sites and Instagram are beta males who know damn well they could never get a girl like that.

Those few older men who Alpha-up, clean up their appearance, and get some confidence and dating skills can easily date women that age and I know many who do. Shit, I wrote an entire book on how to do it. But those are the exceptions to the rule.

And I haven’t even talked about the entire sugar daddy craze that is leveling the playing field for a lot of these older beta males. Once you introduce money into the mix, many of those “hopeless old guys” can fuck women that young.

Point #7 from the article. I find George Clooney hot (he’s 26 years older than me) and Justin Bieber not (he’s seven years younger than me).

My response. Aaaaannnnd you just proved my entire point, and destroyed your own. Thanks for playing.

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I love it when science continues to back up what I say. It’s fun.

I have explained many times in books and blogs that women don’t want to be long-term happy like most men do. Rather, women desire to experience a range of emotions, both good ones and bad ones. Being happy literally every day would eventually get boring to a woman, so a woman in that condition will eventually do something to screw up her life so she can complain about it, thus experience the emotional range female psychology craves.

This is actually an edge women have over men in relationships, since women are comfortable being uncomfortable, and most men are not. I discussed this in great detail in one of the most important articles I’ve ever written right here. In that article, I show how miserable a life women have, and how, unlike men, they actually become accustomed to being unhappy. This is contrasted to men, who (for the most part) don’t like to be unhappy and will try to get out of unhappiness as fast as possible.

I have to be fair and state that not all men are like this. There are plenty of high-drama Alpha Male 1.0’s and a few miserable betas who actually enjoy regular unhappiness mixed with some happiness (look at the charts here), or even being in long states of unhappiness. Hardcore MGTOW’s, angry alt-right ragers, and perpetually angry far-left political guys are examples of this. But I am saying that most men do indeed desire to be happy and to minimize unhappiness at all times (even if they’re too scared to achieve that state, which is the problem with beta males), whereas the percentage of women like this is essentially zero.

A recent study from the UK showed that, I shit you not, women are more miserable than men for almost their entire lives and are happier only in… get ready for it… their mid-80’s.

Yep. That’s only what I’ve been saying forever. Of course women are less happy than men. Women don’t want to be happy (at least not in the long-term).

The article is here, but here are a few notable quotes.

The number of Britons reporting consistent unhappiness is on the rise, with women more likely to report severe issues at every age, the Health Survey for England found.

Every age. Yep. Not just older women, not just younger women, but women at every age.

Twenty eight percent of women aged 16-24 have mental health problems bad enough to count as a disorder, reports the Times. This is almost twice as many as men in the same age bracket, the survey of 8,000 people found.

Read that again. 28% of younger women in the UK are literally mentally ill. And that’s double the amount of men the same age. I’m quite sure you’d see comparable numbers in the USA and Canada as well. (If anything, the American figures would likely be worse.)

Older women aren’t doing any better:

As they enter middle age, 24 per cent of women – almost a quarter of 45 to 54-year-olds – are classifiable as mentally ill.

Yep, though I would like to see the stats on women in their 30’s. As I’ve said many times, the 30’s is the most unhappy decade for women. I’m confident if they did a study on women’s level of unhappiness and broke it out by decade, all decades would be unhappy, but 20’s would be the least unhappy and 30’s would be the most miserable.

The traditional, conservative, manosphere response to this is, “Rrraahh!!! This is all because of feminism!!! Before feminism, back in the 1950’s, women were happy! We just need to go back to that and then everything will be fine!!!”

It’s quite true that there is empirical data that shows women were less unhappy in the 1950’s and prior, before feminism. However, conservatives often mix the word “happy” with “less unhappy.” Those are two different things. Based on the data I’ve read, I don’t see any indication that women were “happy” in the 1950’s as housewife-slaves. Yes, they were less unhappy than they are now in our new left-wing, empowered-woman, single-mother, welfare-state world, that’s very true. But less unhappy doesn’t mean happy. It just means less miserable. I’m quite confident married women in the 1950’s weren’t “happy” either.

Let’s see if the science agrees with me. To quote again from the study in the article:

married women are often more likely to develop depression

HA HA! Exactly. No, my conservative right-wing traditionalist friends, traditional marriage doesn’t make women happy. It might make you happy, but it won’t make her happy.

What have I been saying for almost ten years? Women love getting married, women hate being married. Getting married is the greatest day of a woman’s life, literally. Being married (particularly the traditional monogamous type), once the honeymoon period dies down, is a long, boring slog of work and massive sacrifice. Women HATE being married.

Women initiate 70-80% of divorces, folks. Clearly women don’t like marriage, and clearly marriage doesn’t make women happy.

Because women don’t want to be happy.

And that’s my entire point. There is no “answer” to this, at least not on any global and societal level. Women don’t want to be long-term happy. It’s just not how they’re wired. It’s no one’s fault, it’s just the way it is.

It’s true that you can organize society in a way that makes this slightly less bad, but you’ll never make women happy, for example…

In total, almost one in five adults were found to have a mental illness, up by 25 per cent in the past four years.

Yep. The Western world is collapsing, and this is yet another sign. Since 2012, I’ve been saying that European and American voters have literally lost their minds, and the science now shows this. Almost one in five adults are mentally ill, and gentlemen, these people are voting in your elections and reproducing. Even if you ended all immigration tomorrow (which won’t happen), this all spells collapse for the West, as I’ve been saying for a long time.

Ten years from now, there will be even more mentally ill people in the West. And ten years after that. And after that. Women in the West will grow even more unhappy and men will have to deal with it…

Enjoy the decline!

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About two years ago, a female commenter named “Lady” posted a comment on this article I wrote regarding women’s greatest long-term downfall in terms of relationships; the bullshit fantasy of the man who doesn’t exist: the submissive Alpha Male.

Here’s what she said:

Hello all,

I know this is an old post but I feel like I have to bump it. Hopefully I can contribute something helpful. Looking over all these comments, it disturbs me greatly that there are so many men that have been hurt by so many women, so very badly.

My man was once engaged to a girl who denied him any freedom with his friends, only let him put the tip in, occasionally sucked him off but no cumming in the mouth or on her and she eventually cheated on him. However, I would definitely describe him as an Alpha. Maybe he was trying to be beta to keep her (what he thought was) happy? Or maybe he became Alpha later– I did meet him when he was right out of Ranger training.

A woman describing her boyfriend or husband as “Alpha” when he clearly is not is a common trope with women. Even Dominants (and I’m not saying Lady is one) are embarrassed to admit that their boyfriend/husband plays second fiddle to her.

One of my favorite quotes was spoken by an ex-FB many years ago. She was a Dominant married to a beta male (of course), and when we were talking about dominant sex, I pointed out that her beta husband wouldn’t be able to be dominant with her in bed. Her angry, defensive response was, and I quote, “Yes he is! He’s dominant in bed when I tell him to be!”

On a side note: Special Forces men have unbelivAble alpha energy. I feel totally physically safe with him. Upon meeting him, men instantly act like they want his approval. Women of all ages admire him openly (and stare at me with the hate of a thousand hells). The sex is super hot and he absolutely turned me out. **He convinced me to give up my v-card in TWO WEEKS–!** It took several years for his own friends to speak to me in a relaxed way and when we are in public and speak to another man, they will not even LOOK (much less speak) at me. It took me almost 8 years to figure out why, lol. They fear and respect him I guess. Only other alpha males approach me now… Is this a sense all you guys have or something??

What is she describing here? If you answered NRE, you’re right. She’s describing how her relationship was, back at the beginning, and how amazing it was. She is not describing how it is now (even though she uses present tense in some of her sentences).

It would be pretty naive of me to believe that women are less likely to be verbally abusive, emotionally manipulative and unfaithful than men but I suppose that’s what I have thought all of this time.

Yup. We all like to think our gender is better than the other, that most of the problems lie with the other. It’s not that simple. I have blamed women for the evil they do (70-80% of divorces are initiated by the female, three-fourths of boyfriend/girlfriend relationships are terminated by the female, divorce rape, alimony, child support, and so on), and I’ve also attacked men regarding how most relationship problems are their fault (due to oneitis, neediness, jealousy and so forth).

There’s a lot of blame to go around. Happiness is about looking at yourself first, fixing yourself first. Then, after that, you can point the finger at the other gender on more solid ground.

IMHO, many of these women probably aren’t even aware of the truly fulfilling attitude of “submission of will and service of heart”. The short version for that is, the woman submits what she wants for what the man wants and serves him with all of her heart. To the ‘modern feminist woman’, I am sure this sounds like the height of ignorance and perhaps blind willfulness.

Only if that makes you happy. Did that make Lady happy? Let’s see…

It would be a lie to say that actively choosing to adopt this attitude is easy. At times, it is an incredibly difficult, pride-swallowing, white hot dagger to the heart.

Nope. It made her unhappy. And it gets worse.

 I have been put on the back burner, made agreements with him that were not honored, been called almost every name in the book, accused of things I did not do, insulted without cause and had many of my own talents and desires suppressed because he did not like those things about me. (but I have never been bored!)

Horrible, borderline abusive drama… and she defends it a little at the end, justifying that it’s not boring.

What have I said about women numerous times? That they hate to be BORED. They would rather be in a horribly negative state than be bored. The greatest fear of a woman isn’t drama, or hatred, or anger, or fighting… it’s boredom.

Lady is Exhibit A.

A man can be bored for 20 years and be just fine (it’s not a good thing, but he will be “fine”). A woman wouldn’t be able to handle boredom for six months before she does something to stir shit up (start horrible drama, cheat, quit her job, end a long-term friendship, dump the guy she’s with, or some other sharp disruption to her life).

Once again, I chose to accept this treatment. I maybe chose it without fully knowing the consequences of my choice, but I own that choice.

Of course. Because it wasn’t boring.

Having said that, I have and do stand up to him on a regular basis. I will no longer allow him to degrade me or insult me. I work on improving myself and giving him the respect he deserves for his sacrifice of working hard and paying our expenses. If he ever cheats on me it is over, no second chances on that one…and I have learned so much about myself and who I am.

You’ll see what I said to her in a moment about that cheating part.

IE: I would never, ever be satisfied being with a beta or omega male.

Right. Because that would be boring. Her high-drama asshole husband is horrible, but at least he’s not boring.

I am considered a ‘top quality wife’ (by my husband and his braver friends lol) I am not perfect. I am so much stronger (emotionally) than I ever thought I could be. I am an amazing fuck.

There are many other things like how to fire a gun, how to drive a tractor and the various parts of the body to punch/jab/kick if I am being attacked lol.. (edit: #2,4 & 5 may sound arrogant but I had almost zero self esteem when I met him)

Oh, so many clues in there for you more eagle-eyed readers, but I’ll let you guys discuss that.

For all you alphas out there, I commend you for embracing what makes you men– your natural ability to lead others into safety and provision despite opposition or manipulation. In other words, your balls. Please, just remember that most of us ladies want a man who holds tightly to his manhood but also just as tightly to his woman’s heart.

Okay, now here’s what I said to her in response:

He’s not Alpha. You’re describing him as Alpha because you’re married to him and you love him so your perception of him is skewed.

Your marriage is dysfunctional. I suggest getting marriage counseling immediately (or divorce him).

“If he ever cheats on me it is over, no second chances on that one”

He will. Eventually. To think he won’t is a teenage level of thought. Accept it or move on.

Lady did not respond to me. However, an entire year later, she made another comment in the same thread. Here it is:

Reading through what I said, I cringed, but I still stand by it. It was all true at the time. All the love and idolizations, all the co-dependency.

“It was true at the time.” This is how women think. “I didn’t lie to you. What I said was true at the time. I wanted to be with you forever, but now I don’t.”

This is extremely difficult for men to understand. Men view it as lying and/or abusive. And if taken in a masculine context, it is. But women are not men. You can’t expect them to think or act like men. To do so is stupid, as well as explains why so many men, Alpha Males (1.0) included, do things like traditionally monogamously marry women thinking it will be “forever” because she said so.

I left him last January. I finally had enough of him being an asshole.

And there it is. Predictable.

You were right. He did cheat on me.

Yep. Again, predictable.

Expecting long-term sexual monogamy from your long-term partner IS ONE OF THE STUPIDEST THINGS HUMAN BEINGS DO. I don’t give a fuck what this person (man or woman doesn’t matter) promises. At some point down the road, your perfect boyfriend / girlfriend / husband /wife WILL FUCK SOMEONE ELSE.

Maybe they will dump you before fucking someone else, or maybe they will fuck someone else while staying with you, but either way, THEY WILL FUCK SOMEONE ELSE. PLAN ON THIS. DON’T BE SURPRISED WHEN IT HAPPENS, BECAUSE IT WILL, YOU FUCKING MORON. AND YES, I’M TALKING TO YOU, THE READER, IF YOU’RE IN A MONOGAMOUS RELATIONSHIP OF ANY KIND RIGHT NOW, OR PLAN TO BE AT SOME POINT.

I realized I just made several thousand people very angry by saying that. Good. I’m right. Deal with it.

I didn’t find out until after I left, but I found out and it was multiple women.

Of course it was. Monogamy doesn’t work. Many people trying to force it end up exploding later, which is what happened here.

Her husband did a “Tiger Woods.” He was a beta who tried to lock himself into monogamy and then exploded, suddenly banging as many women as he could to overcompensate.

He had the girl he had been fucking in the new house we had just built (that I designed and loved) a week after I was out the door. As if I never meant anything to him other than what my body could do for him and the status it offered to him to have an adoring, loving wife.

Ah, now Lady gets a little taste of what it’s like to be a man. Usually it’s the woman who instantly monkey-branches to a new guy after a breakup, and the man cries and wallows in oneitis for a few months, longing for her to come back.

What I don’t understand about rereading all these comments and your information is how you separate having women on the side from being in a loving, respectful marriage. If they have an upfront agreement, straight off the bat, that’s one thing. But to hide it from her? And expect her to just take it because he’s an Alpha male and she should be so lucky?

Exactly, and I agree. I think cheating is horrible, including when men do it. I have never cheated on anyone in my entire life, and I’m one of the few men I know at my age who can honestly say this. I never do monogamy in the first place, because I don’t utilize systems in my life that don’t work.

However, this doesn’t let people off the hook at being shocked that their “perfect” partner cheats on them, especially if that person is a man. Men fuck multiple women. It’s what men do. They were never designed to be monogamous, period. Accept this and integrate this into your life, or spend the rest of your life being disappointed.

Oh, this applies to men too. Women weren’t designed for long-term monogamy either.

My ex may have been masculine in appearance and demeanor— but he wasn’t a real man. I don’t care if he worked hard, could protect me from physical harm and was classically handsome. A man who openly disrespects his woman, verbally abuses her and cheats on her is no kind of man I ever want to know.

…yet you let him take your virginity, and you married him, and you stuck with him for quite some time while justifying the drama you were receiving.

Only now, after you’ve done what women statistically do and divorced his ass, now he’s a terrible guy.

I hope you guys are paying close attention.

And by the way, remember that Lady was a virgin. What do you think about all that bullshit advice you hear from right-wing manosphere guys telling guys to marry virgins?

Yeah… it’s a nice thought, but how does that work out in real life?

Speaking of real life, let’s see if Lady understands her mistake and has learned from it…

I am doing what I can to heal and move away from being attracted to the asshole Alpha type. I’m better than that- and I believe there are men out there who are just as manly and attractive and kind as I desire, and they could give a fuck about appearing to be this confident, manly man who thinks they are better than everyone else because they are ruled by their cocks and not by their souls.

And there we go. Even after all of that, she’s circled all the way back to the original point of the very article that she was commenting on… that there is no such thing as a submissive Alpha Male, yet that is exactly what she’s describing.

Per the usual Divorced Woman Playbook, she is now going to go on some kind of Disney dating site like Match.com, go on a bunch of extravert first dates (paid for by the men, of course), pull out her over-33 Provider Hunter checklist, and start screening for a tough, badass, high-T Alpha Male who is also sweet and kind and submissive and treats her like a Lady (oh, the irony of her avatar name).

When she comes across any Alphas, she’s going to snort, accuse them of being rude assholes, and move on.

When she comes across any betas, she won’t be attracted at all, and complain about where all the “good men have gone.”

And she will never find what she wants.

Even everything she’s been through wasn’t enough to teach her.

She’s a woman.

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Many years ago, I visited one of my business clients at his home. He was a kind, religious man who owned a successful plumbing company with several locations, was married, and had five small children. His wife and kids were pleasant, but they were the typical rambunctious children you’d expect. Having grown up in a family with five children myself, I was well accustomed to seeing the constant chaos of a household where the parents were actually crazy enough to have five kids. It made me smile, though I knew that having that many children would never be something I would do; my long-term happiness is too important to me.

The visit was enjoyable and uneventful, until I saw something very interesting. So interesting in fact, that it’s the only thing I remember from the visit, and I never forgot it.

Several of the kids had been playing in the living room and had then left to go play in the basement. They had left a huge mess in the living room; toys, legos, trash, half-used plates and other dishes, crap like that. It looked like a disaster area. Once again, I was accustomed to seeing things like this from my own upbringing.

I was in the hallway talking to the husband when I saw the wife enter the room from the far side. She walked into the living room, saw the mess, and was immediately upset. I was close enough to hear her mumbling, angry curses under her breath, sighing loudly, and shaking her head. She was rightfully pissed that the kids had left such a huge mess.

Then she did something very strange. She angrily grabbed a large bag, kneeled down on the floor, and started shoving toys into the bag, putting them away. She was clearly upset as she was doing this, shoving the toys in the bag hard, like she was ramming a hammer down on nails. The more she did it, the more upset she became.

I could clearly tell what she was thinking: “This is BULLSHIT that I have to sit here and put these kids’ damn toys away! Ugh!!”

I’m no parenting expert, but I am a man who has raised two children (along with their mother, who I will admit gets more than 50% of the credit) to become happy and successful young adults. I have two chapters in my book on exactly how I did this, which some people have told me are the most interesting chapters in the book. For those of you who don’t have kids, let me explain to you the correct way of dealing with a scenario like this.

If your small children leave a huge mess in the living room, you go to them and tell them to stop whatever they’re doing and clean it up.

That’s it. Problem solved.

I’ll address the excuses that I know some women will attempt to point out in the comments. If the kids are currently doing something productive, like homework, then you tell them to clean up their mess as soon as they’re done. If they bitch and complain, you just ignore them and leave. (They’re little kids. It doesn’t matter what they say.)  If they actually refuse to clean up their mess (which is unlikely if you’ve parented them correctly), you give them a time out, and do so without anger or lectures. Either way, you go right back to whatever you were doing.

It’s not your responsibility to clean up your kids’ messes. You have better things to do. It’s your kids’ responsibility. Cleaning up their messes for them will just make you angrier. Moreover, cleaning up your kids’ messes will ensure your kids grow up to be lazy, weak, self-entitled pricks who vote for people like Bernie Sanders. But that’s a topic for another time.

It didn’t occur to this mom to do any of this. She was angry they had left a huge mess, then instantly assumed that it was her responsibility to clean it all up, and become even angrier that she “had” to do this.

One more story…

Way back, about 16-17 years ago, when I was married and my kids were little, we moved into a new house with a nice, new lawn. One day, I was in the kitchen eating something when the wife walked in and told me to mow the lawn, since the grass was getting long.

“No problem,” I said. “I’ll have Josh mow it.” Josh was my son, and he was about nine years old at the time. This was the same age I was when I had to mow the lawn when I was a boy. Actually, since we lived further out in the country, I had to mow three big lawns. My son only had to mow two small suburban lawns; he was getting a good deal.

“No,” she said. “You should mow the lawn.”

“Me?” I said. “I have an able-bodied nine year-old son. Why should I mow it when I’ve got one of those? That’s one of the advantages of having kids, Sweetie. You can put ‘em to work. He’ll mow the lawn and I’ll pay him an allowance for it. It will be good.”

“He shouldn’t have to do it,” she said, growing irritated.

“Why not?” I said, quite confused. “I’m going to go work in the garage. He has nothing else better to do. Just look at him.” I pointed over to the living room. It was a Sunday morning and he was lying on the floor with his blanket watching cartoons.

She blew up. She launched into a huge tirade about how horrible it was to make your poor, innocent, fragile child do the dreadful, back-breaking work of pushing a self-propelled lawnmower around two small lawns for 20 minutes. That was a job for a husband, not a poor, innocent, fragile, little child.

Not knowing anything about women back then, I did what all ignorant men do when their wife or girlfriend gets upset: I used logic. I didn’t know back then that logic never works on angry women. It just makes them angrier.

I calmly, logically, and rationally explained to her that when I was younger than him, I mowed not just two lawns every weekend, but three. I also told her that unlike our nice, high-tech lawnmower that was partially self-propelled (the two front wheels moved automatically via an internal motor, making it much easier to push), I had to use a normal, cheapass lawnmower that I had to push manually because my father couldn’t afford anything better.

I also explained that most of my lawns were on a slope, so back when I was little, I had to push the lawnmower up steep inclines, whereas our son just has to mow two lawns on level ground. I also rationally explained that when I was a kid, our lawns were covered with large pinecones, and fragments of these would often fire out from the bottom of the lawnmower like small bullets, shooting me in the legs (which were often bare because I was wearing shorts for the hot summer), causing welts and bleeding. There were no pinecones in our lawns, so our son wouldn’t have this problem.

Essentially, not only was our son not going to do anything evil or difficult, but he would be doing something orders of magnitude easier than what I did when I was his age. I also would pay him every time he did it, teaching him cause and effect and a good work ethic.

Since man-logic always makes angry women even angrier, she turned brick red and exploded at me. She started screaming and yelling that I was a lazy man and a horrible father, and that I didn’t respect her. When she was all done, I simply shrugged and told her that I wasn’t mowing the lawn. He could mow it, and it wasn’t a big deal.

She fumed and left the room. A few minutes later, she was outside mowing the lawn, all the while with a furious, angry look on her face.

From then on, until we moved into a different house, every weekend during the warmer months she would angrily go mow the lawn while my son laid on the floor with his blanket and watched cartoons.

I don’t have the space here to relate all the other examples and stories that I’ve seen over my 44 years of life, where women purposely and needlessly create scenarios where they make themselves unhappy. I can think of 10 more stories like this just off the top of my head. You could argue that men do things like this too, and they do, but based on decades of anecdotal experience, the degree to which men sabotage their own happiness like this pales in comparison to how often women do this.

As I describe in detail in my book, women are incapable of long-term consistent happiness. The primary reason for this is that instead of happiness, women crave a range of positive and negative emotions. However, one of the other reasons is that they will go out of their way to avoid any perceived inconvenience for certain other people in their life, especially their kids, even when this kind of thing is more than warranted, reasonable, and a good idea for all involved.

You will never convince women, logically, to stop doing this. Likely, you’re going to see some comments here (or I will see in my email) from women complaining that the two women I described above were perfectly in the right. You will never convince a woman that taking on additional unhappiness for herself, for no reason, in scenarios like these harm not only herself, but the very people she’s trying to protect.

Some people will also assume that I’m somehow bashing women or against women by pointing this out. If you’re a longtime reader of my blogs, you know that I love women very much, beyond words. That’s why I want them to be happy, and that’s why it’s so sad to see women spend their entire lives doing these things to themselves.

Oh well. As usual, women can do whatever they want. I’ll be over here being happy.

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